We’ve all been here. We get disappointing news, forget due dates, or sleep through all five of our alarms. Things happen, but it should only affect your mood in that moment, not for every single moment in that day.
Where would we be if we carried the weight of everything that’s ever gone wrong with the world? Probably stuck standing in place and frustrated. So why do we think it’s a good idea to dwell on everyday disappointments? It doesn’t add up.
You may feel like you’re doing something righteous, but holding on to negative emotions are unhealthy and in no way worth it in the long run.
You need to let go. Here’s some ways how:
Sometimes it is good for you. Stop what you’re doing and reflect on a good or funny memory. Where were you? Who was there? Why was it memorable? Allow yourself to go back to that place and sit in the positive emotions from that memory for a few moments.
- Look at pictures of loved ones
I don’t know about you, but it’s really hard for me to look at pictures of my 2-year-old nephew in his pumpkin Halloween costume and not feel happy or at least laugh a bit.
Remembering those who know and love you can invoke feelings of security and contentment in you. Yes, something happened that you wish didn’t, but at the end of the day you know you are loved. So what else really matters?
- Focus on your breath
Paying attention to your breath is an indispensable tool for grounding yourself. You won’t need much time for this. Take two minutes, or more if you like (the longer the better), to inhale, exhale and follow the path of your breath.
- Be present
This step can be applied to many situations. When you are fully present in the moment, you don’t have room to focus on anything else. This isn’t compartmentalizing or burying emotions in your subconscious. It’s understanding that there is a time and place for everything, and the time for you to linger on negative emotions is up.
Every day won’t turn out the way you want, or the way you expect, but that shouldn’t be an excuse to remain stuck in the past.
If you take a moment to simply observe, life is always happening. And it’s up to you to decide whether you want to be a part of your present or your past.